Defining Love Today

Defining Love Today

by Larry Oldham 2009

The most precious gift that God has given us is Love.
There are many forms of Love. There are many
kinds of Love. What we need to do today is very
simple. We need to define Love. We all know about
Love. We have heard Love defined by many poets,
playwrights, screenwriters, family members, former
lovers, and friends. Love is very subjective and
everyone has their own different ideas about what
Love is and what Love means.

Once you have defined love in your own mind, the next
step is to find someone to interpret a definition that
you can share with people everyday. Love is not easy.
Love is hard. The biggest problem with love is that
you can't always control it. Love controls us. You can
pick your partner. You can talk to your partner about
what love means. You can hope and pray that your partner
is always on the same track, or at least the two of you
start off on the same track that you want to share.
We have all been in love. We can all share our
stories and our feelings about what love has meant
to us both good and bad. You want to define love
as you see it, you want to find someone you can love,
and your main purpose is to find a way to stay in
love forever.

If you ask every bride how long she is going to stay
married one minute before she walks down the aisle, I
guarantee you that 99.9% will say forever. Not many
brides get married with the idea of an ending date
unless they have another agenda or ulterior motive.

Love begins with finding the right partner. You can
ask everyone you know, who the perfect partner is
and you will get as many definitions as the number
of people that you ask. Finding the perfect partner
is a task that fits only the criteria that you define.
Love comes in many packages, and all the people that
I know who are in love, knew by natural instinct,
that they had found the right person to love.

Sometimes our instincts prove to be wrong, as we see
by all the divorces in the world; however, in the
beginning, with a new person whom we fall in love
with, expectations of a longtime commitment and
being in love forever are readily accepted.

How do we make love last?

Philosophers have studied this question for years.

Is there a generally accepted answer globally?
Not that I am aware of.
So we are left with our own interpretation of our
own love relationship. Those people who make good
choices, work hard to please their partner and
commit to making love last, normally succeed.
Of course it takes two people willing to follow
this same course, and therein lies the problem:

Finding the right partner with the same commitment.
Finding someone who defines love the same as
you do.

The main goal is to find someone who makes you happy,
someone who makes you laugh and shares the same joys
of life that you do. Remember, you are talking about
a lifetime to be shared with this person, so choose
a person whom you can be in love with for the rest
of your life, plus a person who can always be your
best friend, in spite of the fact that you are both
totally in love.

Once the perfect partner is found, the goal for both
of you is to make the love you share last for a lifetime.